How to talk to the opposite gender/how to get a date

Before you read on, if you haven't you MUST read 'Physco Cybernetics'



Basically anyone who has trouble talking to the opposite gender I would recommend this book. It isn't about picking up girls or boys, but basically getting your mind right. Anyone who tells themselves that "they suck with girls or boys" has more going on in their head than just not being good with girls. You are telling yourself things which you may not realize and it is holding you back.

"Would you physically crawl up to someone on all fours, BEGGING for their approval and acceptance?"

Probably not, but this is what you are doing mentally when you talk yourself out of approaching or when you get nervous and stressed out when approaching. You need to look at them as a person.

Anyways, good book. Should definitely read it.

Right let's get back to the point of the thread

• You have to understand the time, effort, mental preparation needed before you can chat up to anyone anywhere.
  
• If you only talk to the opposite gender when you know them or they are your friends or you know they will talk to you, you need to EXPAND on your social network.
  
• TALK TO EVERYONE, whether they are fat, ugly, nerds, most popular guy/girl in the school, even your teachers
  
• The problem with movies these days is that the GUY or GIRL always gets the GUY or GIRL. They make asking a girl/guy for their number or asking them on a date so easy and awkward. THIS IS NEVER TRUE.

• Also if you HAVE NEVER talked to the opposite gender without knowing them first, don't expect to appear impressive to them at first. You'll most likely look awkward but its normal.
  
• Isolate what is troubling you about approaching a person you don't want to.
• 'Will he/she think im ugly?' Who cares what they think. They aren't important anyway. If they don't want to talk to you, that's their problem, they're missing out on a GREAT opportunity to meet a cool person like you.

Quote:

Just keep trying.

Remember haters are just jealous. You are what you BELIEVE you are.
You can wake up feeling great one morning and feel absolutely shit and ugly the next day. YOUR MOOD AFFECTS the people around you.

Start small

• Maybe ask the girl/guy you always had a crush on or found attractive a few questions in class? Say hello when you see him/her. Offer to help them when they are stuck.
  
• Don't expect them to hate you/love you in the first conversation. They are just getting to know you. Don't act cocky, don't try to be 'cool', don't flirt unless you are experienced, STAY SMALL.
  
• Also note, avoid talking to guys or girls a lot on Facebook/MySpace etc and expect them to talk to you with as much interest Irl.
  
• If you are a really shy guy/girl, then try talking to a girl/guy YOU FIND REVOLTING. Then you will feel superior (it sounds sad but true with a lot of guys/girls). Once you feel more confident move up the hierachy. Talk to more popular people/attractvie people of the opposite gender more often.
  
• Also if you are walking on the street in a mall. WATCH
• there will always be a few guys/girls starting small chat with the opposite gender. Watch how they do it, if you're close enough listen.

CRUCIAL INFORMATION

• Never I MEAN NEVER look for prewritten pickup, opening conversation tips.
• PEOPLE prefer socially active people not a robot spewing internet bullshit.
  
• Even if you don't know what the hell to say to the opposite gender, you will improve with practice. Pre-written lines may sound great, but will appear awkward and you will eventually run out of sources. Making your own means you will improve your technique.
  
• Also You have to learn how to not be afraid to say ANYTHING to ANY GIRL. DONT HOLD SOMETHING IN because you are afraid you will offend her. BUT DONT GO TOO EXTREME. For example, don't say Nice hiney baby, in your opener, you'll most likely get slapped. If you think she is beautiful however, comment that shes looking good today, she won't frown upon you unless you are some extremely ugly toad, which 99% of us ain't.

Also did you know, the a large MAJORITY of guys/girls who randomly ask an opposite gender for a date/number get rejected on the first go? They will get this.

GO AWAY

SO don't feel alone. Keep trying. Theres billions of people to chat up to. If one shrugs you off who cares.

Thanks for reading, leave a comment and I'm still adding more when i can.